Why We Can't

Hi All, The underlying, though often unstated reason for the existence of this board, is to discuss our sexual and emotional attraction to children, specifically, young girls. Over the years, I have made many posts on both emotional love and child/adult sexuality. During that time I have come to some conclusion that I would like to share. Emotionally, we adore our girls, long to be with them, and would do anything to make them happy. Our emotional love for girls is both noble and pure, and it is this facet of our attraction that allows us to do good works for them. The sexual attraction on the other hand, is valuable in that it draws us to them in the first place, giving positive emotions an opportunity to blossom. But, it is also a double edge sword. It is our sexual attraction, along with our understanding that children ARE receptive to sexual activity if practiced in a child-like manner, that has the potential to do great harm, both to the child, and the child lover. One of the things many of us love about kids is that they are not yet cynical and jaded. Another way of saying this is that they are friendly and trusting to those who are nice to them, and are interested in things they like. By connecting our inner child to things that are relevant to children, it is not hard to make a friend. (One caveat would be to insure that the parents are included; never have a "secret" relationship with a child.) Above ground emotional relationships with girls are not only possible, but also mutually beneficial. Emotional Girl Love is, at its root, a symbiotic relationship. But, what about the sexual component that drew the Girl Lover to his friend in the first place? As I stated above, and what is axiomatic among most Girl Lovers, is that children ARE sexual; capable of not only receiving pleasure, but returning it as well. I will argue that this is the most dangerous aspect of Girl Love, for both the adult and the girl. The reason for this however, is not as obvious as it first seems. Let us say that Child Lover A is a trusted family friend and is taking care of a seven year old girl while her parents are out. The girl knows A and adores him. As the two of them sit on the couch and watch a Disney movie together, the man hugs and cuddles the little girl, and she loves it. Soon, hands go places where they should not go, inadvertently at first, more deliberately later, and a sexual tension develops. No words are exchanged and both enjoyed it very much. The next time they get together, and have a modicum of privacy, Child Lover "A" , who is sexually mature and just had an "experience" with her, knows that she was both receptive and willing. So, he initiates it again. This happens many more times over months, and years, and, seemingly, they both have silently consented. Eventually, they out grow each other and the girl finds a boyfriend of her own generation, while the Girl Lover makes friends with others. They only see each other occasionally, and while they are still friendly, they are no longer physically close. Then, one day "A" (the Girl Lover) receives a phone call from the local police department, informing him that a complaint has been filed by a young girl about something that happened years ago. Now, the Child Lover and his young friend of years gone by, are involved in the "System", where only bad things can result for both of them. They are now in the land of unintended, and unanticipated, consequences. This is but one example. I am sure that other scenarios could be put forward to illustrate the danger. The central point of all this is, what might be consensual at the time, has the strong potential to be deemed abusive by the girl when she grows up. This is a hidden danger of our sexual side of which all Girl Lovers, especially those who believe they CAN have "The Experience", should be aware. To conclude, we can and should love our girls with all our hearts. We should play with them, listen to them, and enjoy their company. But, under no circumstances, in this sexually schizophrenic world, can we ever be sure that ANY sexual activity, regardless of how small or furtive, will forever remain harmless. As girls grow up, their entire outlook changes and the once unjaded, trusting child becomes a card carrying member of the greater society, complete with contemporary views on inter-generational sexual activity. Like cigarette smoking, eating fatty foods, and many drugs, the consequences for taking part come later...but they come. Know thyself, thy desires, and the world in which love CAN be considered wrong. 28